First, go over to your child and look him or her in the eye. With young children touch them to get their attention.
Tell your child what to do, instead of what not to do. Change “don’t” into “do” (ex: “walk instead of running”.)
Be clear and specific. (ex: “Put your toys in the basket.”)
Give your child information. (ex: “I am on the phone and need quiet.”)
Use fewer words. Children “tune us out” when we talk on and on.
Don’t back yourself into a corner. Use “when” instead of “if”. (ex: “When you finish your lunch, you may go outside.”)
TIP: THE LOUDER YOU YELL, THE LESS EFFECTIVE YOU WILL BE. SCREAMING AND YELLING LETS YOUR CHILD KNOW YOU ARE OUT OF CONTROL.
(Source: National Committee to Prevent Child Abuse ,New York State, Inc)